December 19, 2025

You might be able to call this update: “Messages from Michael”

What is that anyway? That voice in my head that is so encouraging. When I share these messages in a grief group – it depends which one- they don’t roll their eyes, but it feels like they want to, they are just holding back. They know that grief obviously makes people a bit crazy and me, a prime example. But there is always someone who comes to me afterwards and says, “You are not crazy! That happens to me! I constantly talk with my husband.” OR “My husband, Richard, who recently passed, would absolutely understand what you are saying. He knew all about spiritual connections!”

Around Thanksgiving I kept feeling the importance of the word “Grace”. We can be thankful but, how do we face traumas and hard situations in relationships- disagreements, divorces, hurts, etc? I mean, it is really hard to be grateful in those situations.

I believe it starts with seeing there is a way through and a way out of feeling the separation from God and others. It starts at home with myself. Giving myself grace… each person knows so well all their short comings, or at least what we think are short comings. When really, they could be our greatest gifts.

So what is this GRACE? I think Jesus expresses grace by and through His very being- extending grace out with constant outstretched arms. Perhaps there is a way out of trying to fix myself and doing things right or better: Perhaps it is simply to be kind and loving with myself AND others. I can make space for grace. In my home I am trying to make space. I am also trying to make space in my mind and heart.

Awhile back I was cleaning the garage and I totally lost it when it came time to sort through our mountain bike stuff. I poured out Michael’s special bag he had carefully put together, with all the tools to repair flats on a mountain bike trail. I wailed harder than I have in a LONG time. I was so sad because I missed not only him but the fun we had mountain biking. It was so precious. He challenged me to do something outside of my comfort zone and I LOVED it. I was afraid to try it at first and then acquiesced.  It was an example of how we helped each other and created each other.

SO- I felt him telling me as I sat weeping on the cement garage floor, that I can keep that bag and put those special things back inside it. Then label it “Repair kit for mountain bike rides” just in case I find someone who would want to mountain bike with me again.

I said: OK

It seems, if you find a person that you are in coherence with, and they plus you can really create beyond the sum of your individual parts separately, then that is a very good relationship. Those kinds of relationship create constant growth.

Michael and I were/are that.

There have been times when I felt unstable and not able to really lean on my friends or family the way I could lean on Michael. It boils down to me being afraid to be brave and do things because Michael isn’t here to support me. He was always this firm anchor I could fall back on.  The other night as I kept circling between somewhat awake and dream states, I kept hearing the song: “Lean on me”. After I got up to face the day, Michael talked to me saying: “I am always there for you. Lean on me! I want you to go out and adventure- to go to Colorado and take classes in the summer. I am NOT gone. We have that coherence. Don’t be scared off by the passing scene. Yes, you will feel it, and cry or rejoice – but remember it is passing. Just let your love radiate. And don’t worry about the house, the wonderful neighbors are there, next door! All will be taken care of.”

I told him: “I did feel this bravery during the summer, and I took your ashes different places and I loved that. There has been a more internal bravery this winter, clearing out the house and making it mine as you asked.”

Then I remembered hearing in my head: “Read the signs!” I wondered what that meant at the time.  Did it mean he was sending me signs and I should watch for them? People do talk about signs from their loved ones who have passed. But it seems Michael doesn’t send me signs, he just talks to me directly. So, then I asked for specifics. “What does that mean, Read The Signs?”

He responded:

“Yes, take your time to read the instructions! Haha! You do have to slow down for that. And know you are covered and cared for- from this side and that side.”

I had to smile when I heard that. I always try to skim through instructions and not go slow and actually take the time to read. The answer for is me is always – SLOW down.  He said it over and over to me the last three months of his earthly life.

Then I asked, “What was the lesson I got from the mountain bike clean up breakdown?”

“Me pushing you out of your comfort zone. And what fun came of it! So here I am again with the same message!”

A few nights later he said more to me:

“I am here for you and not going anywhere. Know that I have more ability to help you now than I did in my human form. I can’t really interfere with you, for sure, and I am often off learning new things- but I can influence you and your surroundings. Mainly my connection is with you if you can get that. In my earthly life the two of us earned a TRUST, we learned to trust one another and we were open to listen and share all that we possibly could, digging deep.  That is the path. That means that I can help you even more from this side.  You just need to settle into that understanding, trusting me and above all trusting yourself.”

Well, those are some of the messages from Michael!

I want to wish you all not a “Happy” new year – but one filled with JOY and WONDER!  Seeing through the eyes of the divine. Seeing yourself through those eyes as well!
LOVE TO ALL!

OK- this IS your Christmas/ New Years card for this year – so don’t go expecting something in your physical mailbox! Haha!